How to get your mother-in- law to like you

 

I've been married for twenty five years now. It hasn't been an easy twenty five years either. We have had more than our share of difficult times, We could very easily have become a divorce statistic. Somehow we managed to survive and thrive in our marriage.

When my husband and I were first dating I'll let you in on a secret; my mother in law didn't like me. She was polite enough to me, but I could tell that she didn't think I was good enough for her son. Even though she never would admit that, I could tell early on that she didn't think I was right for her son.

You can get your mother in law to accept you and perhaps even grow to like you.You have some serious relationship work to do. You must show your mother in law why her son married you. Get to work!

Show your mother in law your good qualities. Do what it takes to let your mother in law see what a terrific person you really are. Your husband married you for a reason. Now you need to let your mother in law know what that reason is.Be very kind to your new mother in law and her son while you are with them. Talk respectfully to your mother in law. Offer to help make dinner and clean up the kitchen after dinner. Keep your home clean, and take care of her son. This is her baby you have ripped away from her. You are the other woman!
 

Be kind to your mother in law. This may be the first time she has to accept a new daughter in law into her life.Think of it this way; your new mother in law, is thinking she is losing her son. But you can help her with those fears by becoming her new relative.If you have to, kiss her butt. Compliment your mother in law. Tell  her she looks great, and that her home is beautiful. Compliment her dinner preparation. Invite her to your home for a meal you will prepare.

Ask your mother in law to share your new life. Invite her to your home. Don't make her feel left out. Go over to her home and share an engaging activity together. Go to garage and rummage sales  together.Go out with your mother in law to dinner. Go out for lunch, or go to craft shows. Do something that she likes to do, such as playing tennis, walking, throwing parties. This way, you can develop a relationship with your mother in law by doing something the two of you enjoy doing.

Treat your mother in law with the utmost of respect. Do not boss her around. Do not talk behind your mother in law's back. You have become a member of your husband's family by marrying him. This means you may have gained so many relatives that it becomes a daunting task to remember their names. Always talk nicely to your mother in law and to her relatives. Even if they are rude to you, and disrespectful, do your best to keep it together. Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing.

Your mother in law may act like a pitbull in a fighting ring. But that doesn't mean you should stoop to her level. Always take the high road, by being kind to your mother in law. While many women luck out by gaining wonderful, loving, trusting mothers in law, some don't. Handle your mother in law with care, and hopefully sooner or later she will come around to see what a great catch you are.Copyright 2012, (c).

How to make your marriage better

When you have been married for awhile, you end up doing the same old thing. You start taking each other for granted. Your relationship status becomes the same thing. You have to spice it up, to keep the love alive. That's why you need to go on weekly, or at the very least monthly dates.
Even though you are living together, having many responsibilities, you must take time out of your hectic daily lives, to reconnect with your marriage partner.

Remember all those fun, thrilling dates you had when you were courting? Well going on dates with your spouse will make you feel like a giggly teenager again. Okay that's a stretch, but I promise it will make you feel renewed and happy. If not, then you need marriage counseling.

Going out on weekly dates when you are married gives the two of you time to reconnect away from home. You will be doing something different from watching the same old boring television programs. You will have time to spend with each other. Sometimes you need that time away from the sameness of home life. You certainly need time away from the stresses of home life when you have small children at home. Small kids usually demand constant attention with diaper changing, and "Mom look at me." Therefore you need to get away from it all to bring back the bond that brought you together in the first place.

Try to get away from it all at least once a month married couples! Dine out, go to a play, a movie, even going for a walk while the kids are being babysat by an adult will renew your love, and possibly even your passion. When you truly can't afford to go out for a night on the town, just try to do something different. Put the kids to bed early. Turn off the blathering idiot box. Turn your attention to your spouse. Do not do like my husband does, and hide behind a computer screen. Sit outside together on a warm sparkling night. Sit together on the couch enjoying cuddle time.

Put the effort into your marriage, ensuring a long lasting, loving relationship. By all means don't talk about finances while cuddling, or household chores. Talk to each other about each other, your dreams, something funny that happened during the day.Remember with half of American marriages ending up in divorce court, you can help raise the statistics. Copyright 2012, (c), written by professional author, Kate Johns.